Without knowing it, I came into marriage for myself. I didn’t realise how badly driven I was at getting my own stuff until I wasn’t getting it. I knew I’d have a happy marriage, I knew I was going to have fun and yes so much fun while having fun. However, I was expecting someone to hand these things to me. I wasn’t going to create that world for myself. This was my first selfie taken.
Again, I used to think I was so lovely and tender and gentle and patient, and the list of worthiness goes on. Sadly, I have found myself throwing tantrums when I didn’t have my way, yell so hard I let my crown fall off my head, cry like a baby when my needs weren’t met, punish the wrongdoer for his grave offence. Hmm, my second selfie – not so pretty is she?
God saw Adam’s loneliness and went on creating; creating His masterpiece, His solution to man’s pathetic condition. God made woman- man’s way out of loneliness, man’s help meet for destiny, man’s world of adventure and multiplication. He made the woman for the man and not the woman for herself. However, only in the great institution of marriage can this reality be fulfilled.
Adam saw Eve and spoke by revelation, “you are to me, what I’d never been to myself.”
God could have been that helpmeet to Adam; after all, He made man for Himself. But God knew a woman would do a better job at it. God has put something in the woman useful for her assignment, something so great that only He knows. He put Himself in the woman. He has given her His kind of strength.
She was taken from man’s side,
To be his help and not to chide,
A gentle voice through the tide,
A hand to hold and to guide.
A woman must realise her place and assignment in marriage. She fails when she doesn’t understand how to use her power.
So here’s what I did; I posed with my best side and took me another selfie. I used my gifts to serve better. I became easy to talk to and endured hardness like a good soldier. I became patient in waiting and joyful in little. I gave love rather than wait to receive, I planted in famine and reaped daily a bounty. I cared and didn’t complain, I gave without holding back, and received my reward from the Lord.
I was excited that my better side was making waves. I was happy because I was making another happy.
I am that wife whose husband’s heart safely trusts in her, that wife who gives him peace and does him no harm.
I’m a wife who is committed to her assignment to her husband, helping him fulfil God’s purpose.
He loves me, I honour him, this is God in charge.
– PAULA YOUNG, OCTOBER 12, 2016